Read it together.
For book clubs
What Do I Tell My Daughter? is a book made for conversation. Whether you're reading with close friends, a formal book club, or a group of women navigating the same questions — these pages have a way of opening doors and will keep you talking.
Below you'll find discussion questions to lead your conversation, plus a downloadable guide to take with you.
Discussion Questions
Start the conversation.
1.
Katie describes leaving her career as something she believed was the right thing to do. Have you ever made a sacrifice you thought was right — only to question it later?
2.
The book explores how easy it is to lose parts of yourself while caring for others. Was there as moment in the memoir that felt especially familiar or uncomfortable to you? Why?
3.
Financial dependence and professional compromise quietly shape many relationships. Even healthy, loving ones. How can couples successfully navigate those dynamices in a way that preserves mutual respect, equality and individual identity?
4.
What chapter or moment from the book most resonates with you or will stay with you the longest?
5.
Katie struggles to find the balance between career and motherhood. Did the book change the way you think about sacrifices in relationships or parenthood? Is sacrifice a worthy gesture or is it unhealthy?
6.
The book challenges the idea that women can or should “have it all.” Do you think that phrase is empowering, unrealistic or both? How has your vision of a fulfilling life changed after having children or building a family?
7.
After reading the book and reflecting on your own life, what advice would you give your daughter or son about marriage, family, partnerships and maintaining a sense of self?
8.
Readers have praised Katie for putting into words things other women think but don’t say outloud. If you agree, what are some that stood out to you? Why do you think people/women aren’t willing to be more open about their experiences?